Personal Development and the Power of Self-Management

We talked yesterday about the Power of Self-Management and the power it can build for you into your daily life. So if we are going to explore the ability to Self-Manage ourselves to a level of fruition that produces the fruit we want to receive then we have to ask the foremost important question: Why do we believe that we have so little value? I believe this belief causes more pain and suffering than any other belief we can feed into about ourselves. It is very destructive course of action towards our self-confidence and ambition in life.

From the time we are children to pre-teens to teens to adults we are bombarded with people who lower our self-esteem and destroy our own personal sense of discipline and self-worth. Very little is done in school to help this situation. We were always perceiving another student doing better than us because they got a better grade a few times and we found out about it. Then we began to think in our minds, “That person is just smarter than me.” It continues all through school and even when our friends played with someone else and left us out of the fun we wanted to know, “How are they better than me?  I thought my friend liked me?”

Personal Development in the past has done little to fix this problem other than offer people an over inflated idea about themselves and one they cannot live up too at that. So we construct a reality in our own mind and try to assign value to ourselves there and sometimes we over do it. Don’t get me wrong, we must be able to have extreme self-confidence and to have high ambition. But we must have a sense of reality that what we believe we can do, we can really do. An over bloated idea about ourselves and what we “think” we can really do does not help our confidence level. In other words, what we think we can do we must be able to do. Delusions of your ability does not help your self-confidence.

Personal Development needs to teach more about the reality in your head becoming congruent with the reality you see in your daily life. It is hard to be objective in a subjective world. In fact, you can’t really rely on what others say about your results because they are skewed as well. Friends and family don’t want to hurt your feelings. You must test yourself in order to know what you can and cannot do. Or perhaps you need an expert Personal Development Coach to help you get the raw facts that you need in order to excel. Self-management is all about you having a worldview of yourself that is compatible with what you want to accomplish in life.

The personal development that you pursue should be trackable and verifiable with results that you produce. This way you will know how much better you are really getting at anything you want to excel at in your life.

The thinking trap that we get caught up with in our life is that we value ourselves by what we achieve in life. Your value as a human being is not determined by what you do or achieve in life. That only works in the market place. You have to value yourself independently of your achievements in life in order to stay balanced.

And good personal development course should teach you this distinction. Your value is not what you create. Your value is what type of person you are and how you treat other people. Many people will gain fame and think. “If it is this easy then it must not be to important because anyone can do this.” They can’t believe that they are good enough for the success and therefore begin to tear it down. Make sure your chosen personal development course teaches you this as well and you will see your self value go sky high and nothing will seem impossible to you!