Self Help
Self-Responsibility and the Top 1%
One day after training in the Martial Arts I asked Soke Draconis his opinion about why it is that self-responsibility is so hard for a lot of people. Soke scratched his chin with his left hand and explained, “Many people were never faced with true need for self-responsibility in their life. Their parents did most things for them and never showed them real love.” I asked Soke what he meant by real love.
Soke Draconis continued, “Most parents do way too much for their children and never allow them to experience the world for themselves. So as young adults they grow from a root of learned helplessness. And as they grow older they become older adults working from this same principle. So they are always crying about wanting more and needing more and wanting others to do it for them.”
To this concept I remarked, “That does not sound like a very effective way to live!”
Soke was on it right away, “It is not, Brady. In fact, it is cruel and heartless. The parents think they are showing love by being so caring and doing so much for their children. However, the children become dependent on the parents and the cycle for most kids never breaks, Brady. If you love something you create a space for it to grow and to experience the skills it will need to take care of itself forever. Only the most prepared people will make it in the world to the degree of success they want to have for themselves and for those around them, Brady!
“Personal development training teaches people to assume self-responsibility for their own life and to make things work through them. There are times, Brady, when a hand-up is needed not hand-outs. Brady, hand-outs will never work as proof of what we are seeing in America today. More and more people want the freebies from the Government and do not care that the Government gets their money from other working Americans who are taking risks and running and operating companies. To say nothing of their own money they are laying on the line towards the personal and individual growth of others.
“I myself am a small business owner, Brady, and I am considered in the so-called Top 1%, and why? Because I earn a little bit over $380,354.00 a year. So when people are being mad at the Top 1% they are making the enormous mistake of taking out the small business owner who are not the target market but have been lumped in there with the so-called Top 1%. You have to weed out the small business owner in the rant against the rich or you hurt a ton more innocent people than you do the very rich.
“However, Brady, the real situation to dissolving the problem with the truly rich is to become rich yourself. Then you can change the game of how the rich control things and be the integrity in business that is greatly needed. That is why personal development must be about personal integrity and it filters over into your personal habits. Any other way of trying to change the powers that be serves to create a power struggle. Change comes from within not from without.”
“Soke Draconis, how would people do that?” I asked. “Let’s go to lunch, Brady!”
All of Us At One Time or Another Feel Like We Are On the Outside of Life and Watching Others Live In Sync
What you need is a system of living that gets you “Into the flow.”
Life can be very confusing and it can get us to the point that we feel separated and dazed. It is no wonder that we feel so disconnected from our life that we want to live and settle for the existence we inch out every day. I too lived like that in my early life—until I found the secrets to living…and not just existing.
Personal fears will rob you of life and replace it with a battle for existence. We run around looking over our shoulders while making little steps in life in order to avoid making any real noise for fear that we might be noticed and put down for trying to be different and blazing our own path. We have plenty of evidence of this: most great people have had great opposition from all those around them. Some of the greats were lucky enough to have maybe a few people support them, however.
It is a mistake to think that others can give you flow and happiness. However, here is what I learned from empirical evidence. (Yes, from my own real life trials and errors.)
- Life will get better to the degree that you do.
- Whatever you want to improve in your life, it will do so when you improve at being that person.
- Integrity is the key to success and happiness.
- When you feel in control of your actions (and why you do them), you will feel happiness about yourself because you are leading yourself properly and have control of your life.
- The more you subtract from your life, the more consciously you will live.
- Too many things will make you feel out of control and not focused on the important things in your life.
- When you have a system that works, life can become automatic in happiness and success.
- You want to automate all that you can so that life is set up on a process and keeps flowing—just like an automatic draft or direct deposit on your bank account.
- When you learn to allow your energy to flow in the direction you want it to flow, life will cease to be a struggle.
- Goals will manifest where you place the conscious and sub-conscious desire for them to do so.
We do not get what we want from life by wishing and hoping. We get from life what we take the time and effort to become. We attract that which we are. Everything in our life is great to the degree that we make the conscious effort to become great ourselves.
It is very reasonable for us to expect back out from life what we place into it. So give yourself the opportunity to grow and you will find happiness and success—and…you will have flow.
Professional Personal Development: A Comprehensive Approach to Self-Mastery
I often find myself talking with many people about the subject of personal and professional development. And the most intriguing common denominator that many people exhibit—regarding self-improvement or self-mastery—is how they treat their personal and professional lives as if they were two separate things. In reality, both are like different sides of the same coin…so shouldn’t we call it “professional personal development”?
You see…rather than create a state of duality, which stretches your attention between two separate worlds, wouldn’t it be better—and much easier—to simply treat your personal and professional lives as a single “whole”? This way you can use one all-encompassing mindset to help you create the life you desire throughout all aspects of your life—and not just one at a time. Of course, creating a well-balanced and well-rounded life becomes more possible when you approach self-mastery from the mindset of: professional personal development.
When you think about, your emotions, thoughts, and beliefs—and your subsequent actions that stem from them, you realize that they all play major roles in both your professional and personal lives. Even if you approach self-mastery from the single aspect of “personal” development, it only stands to reason that the same information and training that allows you to control and master your thoughts, emotions, and beliefs for personal gain can also be used for professional gains, too.
After all, “you” are the common denominator in your world(s). So it only makes sense that when you develop self-mastery skills and tools, you would evenly apply them throughout all aspects of your life. Therefore, personal development (a.k.a., self-improvement/self-mastery) is really a joint venture with professional development, hence the new term: professional personal development.
Now, there are plenty of programs that focus on each aspect as something unique and different. But as I’ve already indicated…why not approach self-mastery as one comprehensive mindset? You have nothing to lose—and everything to gain—with this method. And by doing so, you create a much fuller and more well-rounded life for you and your family.
Fortunately, I had a chance to learn this lesson very early on in my life because of my martial arts training. As a martial arts student—and then, eventually, as a martial arts instructor—I learned that there was no such thing as a part-time martial artist; just like there’s no such thing as a part-time parent or spouse, or even a part-time goal or ambition. So therefore, there are no “parts” in your life. You always have professional personal development.
Essentially, if you want to create something in your life, you have to be all “in.” There’s no such thing as part-time success. If you really want to create the live the life you truly want, you have to make the decision to become whole. Anything less would be limiting to your professional and personal goals, which already co-exist because of you.
So stay vigilant and keep looking for a self-mastery program that can help you address your (entire) life—as a whole—and not just the parts. Your professional personal development depends on this.
Steve Garcia — Creotology Personal Development Writer
Professional Personal Development Creates Balance in Your Life
If you love value, and you want to maximize and leverage your efforts for the maximum effect (result), consider professional personal development training. This offers all the same traditional elements of self-improvement (self-mastery), but with the added element of “professional” skills training, which really adds to and complements your personal skills.
In reality, your professional life is the same as your personal life. For example, if you’re focused and hard-working at work, you’re likely focused and hard-working at home, too. However, some people don’t see it this way and so they end up creating an unbalanced life in which one area is impeccable while the other area is in shambles.
With that said, professional personal development is actually sort of a misnomer, because in reality, you can’t have professional development without personal development—and vice versa. In other words, you can’t receive personal development training and not instinctually feel the need to incorporate and apply those newfound skills into your professional world. Conversely, it’s impractical to not strive for excellence while at home.
Now, of course, you can always “choose” to ignore what you’ve learned and not apply it to the specific areas of your choice. But how does that make sense? It doesn’t!
Ignoring and forsaking one set of life skills for the other would be like wearing a sneaker on one foot while wearing a dress shoe on the other. Both feet are still part of the same body, but they don’t complement each other. And for you ladies…imagine trying to wear a high-heel on one foot while wearing a flat on the other. Can you imagine how off-balanced you would feel?
No matter how you look at it, everything comes back to professional personal development as your best chance for complete and total success. With the professional/personal life skills and mental tools you learn to develop, you can create the ultimate life for you and the people who depend on you (i.e., family, friends, colleagues, and co-workers).
There’s no better form of (self) investment that exists on the planet that actually pays you twice for the same money spent. In other words, the money you invest into your professional personal development education will also pay you benefits in your personal life. Talk about making your money, time, and energy working wisely for you.
So, if you feel like your world is little off balance, you might want to double check and compare your personal and professional practices. Here are a few things (but not all) to look for and consider:
(And keep in mind that every home scenario below is interchangeable with a work one.)
- Do you respond to emotionally stressful situations at home, but overreact to them at work?
- Is your office clean, tidy, and organized while your home closets and garage are in disarray?
- Are you hitting your work performance goals, yet you never seem to get anything else done around the house?
- Do you argue and fight with your family friends, but get along perfectly with your colleagues and co-workers?
- Are you completely focused while working at the office, yet easily distracted while working around the house?
It’s important to recognize whether or not you have an imbalance that exists in your life. But by taking some form of professional personal development training, you stand a much greater chance of success and happiness.
Enjoy the journey of self-mastery…but make it count everywhere!
Steve Garcia — Creotology Personal Development Writer
Double Your Success with “Professional Personal Development” Training
As you might already know, your professional life and your personal life are really one in the same. When you stop to think about it, both of these aspects are really like two sides of the same coin. No matter where you go or what you do, the skills, qualities, and attributes you exhibit in your professional life can be used in your personal life as well. This is why professional personal development training is so vital to your overall success in life.
If you’re the type of person who can appreciate added value and double benefits, really consider what professional personal development training has to offer. The undeniable truth is that the life skills and mental tools you learn for your professional life can automatically be used in your personal life. While some people might overlook this point, it’s your job—as someone always looking for ways to improve your performance—to be smart and ambitious enough to heed this message.
It only makes sense that if you were looking for a way to supercharge your life, wouldn’t you want it to be the most complete and well-rounded? Of course you would! Anything else would be like trying to build a high-performance race care with the most powerful engine, but with old, worn-out tires that couldn’t even handle the turns without the risk of a blowout.
No matter how you slice it, the fact remains the same: Having balance between both worlds equals a happier and more meaningful existence for you—and the people around you. When you think about it, that’s what success is really all about, right?
So, by using professional personal development training, you create a system of success that can help you in the long run. For example, learning how to better control your emotions and focus your attention might help you handle situations at work that would otherwise stress out most people. Maybe because of this, you get an extra sale or a promotion with a pay raise—all because you were able to focus and perform when others emotionally couldn’t.
And now, when you get home, those same skills can help you handle the stressful situations you’re likely to encounter with your spouse and children—and sometimes your friends. After all, some of the biggest headaches actually come from the people we love. And unlike with strangers, emotions tend to run higher with people we care about.
So maybe, you should really consider looking for a personal development program that specializes in professional personal development training. This subtle distinction could make all the difference in your world. And again, personal development is all about success and creating the best world for you and your loved ones.
So remember, when you enroll into a professional personal development program, you’ll definitely get more “bang” for your buck. This is one of those rare investments programs (into yourself) that actually pays double dividends—and you’re the direct beneficiary. So enjoy your journey, but make the most of it!
Steve Garcia — Creotology Personal Development Writer
Personal Development and How Beliefs Create Reality.
Personal Development and How Beliefs Create Reality.
It has been my personal experience through my Personal Development training that it is really hard for people to accept beliefs create reality and not their experience in life. They do not like to accept the fact that experience is determined through perception and perceptions are filtered through the way we believe about something. I will admit that I see how this happens to many people; however, the truth is that we see the world through the prism of our belief systems. The belief formulates the DNA for whatever perception we are having about anything.
Personal Development deals with many aspects of whatever we have going on in our life, but for some reason overlooks the fact more often than not that beliefs create reality. The personal development mantra is all about how thoughts create reality. Thoughts come from our beliefs. So whatever we believe will come through as what we think. Thoughts are just random insights and processing information and trying to organize out adventures and under takings.
Beliefs are a totally different ball game. Personal Development should be all about helping you get your viewpoints in alignment to create the right thoughts so you can take the correct actions in your life. The shortest distance between two points is a straight line. This means the most effective ideas and thoughts will align your action into the quickest victory of your personal goals.
If you like, you can go to Creotology.com and under the tab that says ROC you can download a personal questionnaire of your mental blueprint. All you have to do is fill the questionnaire out and you will begin to see many changes and thoughts and even ‘Aha’ happening in your mind. You can even download my free Book The Teachings of Soke Draconis and The Universal Psychology of the Law of Attraction Book for free. This will be enough free information and exercises to get you started and on your way to many new discoveries about yourself and the world you have created for yourself.