Soke Draconis continued, “Most parents do way too much for their children and never allow them to experience the world for themselves. So as young adults they grow from a root of learned helplessness. And as they grow older they become older adults working from this same principle. So they are always crying about wanting more and needing more and wanting others to do it for them.”

To this concept I remarked, “That does not sound like a very effective way to live!”

Soke was on it right away, “It is not, Brady.  In fact, it is cruel and heartless. The parents think they are showing love by being so caring and doing so much for their children. However, the children become dependent on the parents and the cycle for most kids never breaks, Brady.  If you love something you create a space for it to grow and to experience the skills it will need to take care of itself forever. Only the most prepared people will make it in the world to the degree of success they want to have for themselves and for those around them, Brady!

“Personal development training teaches people to assume self-responsibility for their own life and to make things work through them. There are times, Brady, when a hand-up is needed not hand-outs. Brady, hand-outs will never work as proof of what we are seeing in America today. More and more people want the freebies from the Government and do not care that the Government gets their money from other working Americans who are taking risks and running and operating companies. To say nothing of their own money they are laying on the line towards the personal and individual growth of others.

“I myself am a small business owner, Brady, and I am considered in the so-called Top 1%, and why? Because I earn a little bit over $380,354.00 a year. So when people are being mad at the Top 1% they are making the enormous mistake of taking out the small business owner who are not the target market but have been lumped in there with the so-called Top 1%. You have to weed out the small business owner in the rant against the rich or you hurt a ton more innocent people than you do the very rich.

“However, Brady, the real situation to dissolving the problem with the truly rich is to become rich yourself. Then you can change the game of how the rich control things and be the integrity in business that is greatly needed. That is why personal development must be about personal integrity and it filters over into your personal habits. Any other way of trying to change the powers that be serves to create a power struggle. Change comes from within not from without.”

“Soke Draconis, how would people do that?” I asked.  “Let’s go to lunch, Brady!”

Personal Development Training and Becoming a Leader!

It is very apparent if you take the time to look around you that the world is lacking credible and effective leadership. The United States use to be fully leveraged with great leaders; however, we have declined with the rest of the world. A course of Personal Development should always have material on how to be a great leader. The main thing to becoming a great leader is to become your own self-leader every day. If you cannot motivate and manage yourself to effective outcomes how will you do it with anyone else?

Many people like to think they are great leaders because it makes them feel good about themselves and where they are in their life.; however, if you are not living the way you want, and feeling the way you want, and the life experiences you want are not present in your life then you are having a degree of self-leadership problem. Personal Development teaches that not everyone has to want the same life and the same level of success, but if you know what you want and you are not receiving it into your life you have to take notice of your lack of inventory.

Personal Development should teach how to develop your life to the degree that you want to live. One of the great abilities that great leaders must have (and it is inescapable) is self-motivation. Taking that last statement to a more specific level is that leaders do what they say they are going to do. Leaders plan well and make off-the-cuff decisions with faith and follow through. This comes from their high self-confidence level.

Personal Development should have you training in a high degree of personal follow through. The great leaders have iron clad will when it comes to their follow through. Bottom line is that great leaders execute and engage obstacles and situations turning them into opportunities. If your Personal Development Course does not teach you about leadership, get out of it and enroll into one that does. Many people will set goals (creations) and never follow through with them. But, a leader will follow through to completion. Become a hands on executor of your goals. Never take your eye off the prize and know when you feel discouraged and re-align yourself.

Personal Development is not just about feeling good and taking a break from your life. Personal Development is about real training and real skills that get you where you want to be, period. It does not mean it is emotional or material or any other way. One of the things that happened to me when I first got into Personal Development was the thought that I was going to be a Master of Life and nothing bad or inconvenient would happen to me. Now to a great degree, things did become a lot smoother because I learned what to do and what not to do and not to place myself in compromising positions in the first place. I soon learned the real training behind Personal Development. Like the Martial Arts, you train for when you need the fighting skills to win a fight or to protect yourself or loved ones. Personal Development trains you for the problems in your life and how to skillfully take care of them and staying relaxed in the process. Great Leaders are executors and take care of situations as they arise and they do not quit until they engage their plan and are successful. Do they fail? Yes, of course they do, but they learn from their personal failures. They also realize their failures are not who they are, but is rather about what they did so they do not take failures personally. Instead, they take them as learning lessons, re-align and move forward.

Personal Development training will bridge the gap between execution and strategy. Many people can make a plan but few truly engage and execute. More on strategy and execution on tomorrow’s blog posting.

Self-Mastery through Personal Development

In my thirty years of training in the Martial Arts and Personal Development, I have learned a few invaluable things about Self-Mastery. First you need to determine what self-mastery is to you and what does it mean to obtain it for yourself. When in the Martial Arts, there was a course laid out for us to follow in order to achieve the level of Black Belt and then onward to more and more rank, knowledge and wisdom. So we knew what we were trying to achieve through the process of our focus and the fruits of our labor.

I believe it to be completely necessary to have a planned lined of attack for what you are going to try and achieve self-mastery at. To this end, it is wise to take a few minutes, sit down and think about what you want to accomplish in a Personal Development Self-Mastery Training Course.  Here are some ideas for you to explore and consider as a starting place for your Personal Development Self-Mastery course training.

Moral character: We all have areas in our moral character where we should take inventory, look at ourselves and make changes. Make your personal development course about what you can do to change an unwanted or undesirable characteristic or trait and change it to a characteristic you desire.

This will require taking a serious and hard core look at yourself. Have your friends and family help you with their point of view about where you could use improve your character and see if there is a running theme. If so, consider adapting that into your Personal Development Self-Mastery Training Course. Develop skills and self-management tools you do not have currently, but that you know if you did have them you know you would go further.

Also make sure that the self-mastery course is balanced. Meaning, make sure you try and excel in the physical, mental, spiritual, emotional, and business world. You do want to leave out any part of skills you need to advance yourself in all areas of your life including possibly shedding unwanted weight, gain muscle, increase your cardio, learn and use new words you did not previously know. Learn to control your attention, learn to be a better listener to others, learn about things that are good for conversation. Learn how things work. Learn new skills that will advance you at your job including how to make better relationships. The possibilities are endless. Design your personal development self-mastery course well and I will see you at the top of your game.

Hello, today we are going to talk about Self-Confidence and how to develop it. Many people make the mistake of thinking that they have no confidence about themselves. This is not true! Everyone has confidence in something and in most cases a lot of things. However, when we lack confidence in something we internalize it as if we lack confidence in all things. A good Personal Development Course or Instructor will teach you to identify what you lack confidence in and will help you build from there.

Personal Development Instructors should listen to your concerns and direct you to discovering where you are having your problems in life because of low confidence and provide you with the tools to create a master plan which you can effectively engage. Yes…I said engage. Confidence comes from being prepared and doing what you lack confidence in. Whatever you lack confidence in doing,  make it a habit until it becomes a habit that you are very good at up to the point of becoming a natural response. Practice regardless of whether you feel good or not so good. The more you practice something correctly the better you become at it. You have the power to literally make it second nature to yourself. You will find that a good personal development course will highlight this type of training for you.  Alternatively, you may need a more personal touch and find you prefer to deal directly with a Personal Development Instructor.

Another personal development technique that can be applied when needed and also practiced regularly is to think of someone with great self confidence and when you are faced with adversity, think of this person and ask yourself, “What would they do?” Then think of yourself as them and what they would do, and you can even imagine that you are them. This powerful technique is called modeling and is very potent. Another personal development technique to implement is when confidence is needed, stand or sit with your back straight and imagine in your mind that you are expanding and becoming larger than the person or situation that you have to tackle. This too is a powerful technique.

Do not become too rigid in your steps to gain confidence and how it has to be for you. A well laid out plan is great and you should have one in place to provide you an outlined structure to follow, but be flexible and ready to adapt as well. Being too rigid may make you clam up and not feel like being at your best because you feel to confined. Personal Development teaches you to make a plan and study what you need to know and then do it. Doing what you told yourself you would do instills confidence in you and makes you trust yourself. Start small and work your way up to larger things. You can instill confidence in others by giving them things to do and tell them that they are the perfect person for this assignment and then don’t follow up with them trust in them that they did it. Then find a smooth and non-aggressive way to follow up with them… no one else.  You could say, “Bob, I know you took care of that assignment I gave you. Did you find it simple or challenging?”

Think of mistakes you make as learning lessons. Forget the notion you will do it right the first time. This sets you up for failure thinking. Remember, mistakes are part of the process in becoming more confident. Accept the mistake as a learning curve and move on. Do not give them another thought except for what you have to learn from it. Mistakes are great teachers nothing more. Personal Development and self-confidence go hand-in-hand together. Don’t allow yourself to ruin your confidence by not forgiving yourself for mistakes. Be kind to yourself and watch yourself grow with great confidence.

Personal Development and the Power of Self-Management

We talked yesterday about the Power of Self-Management and the power it can build for you into your daily life. So if we are going to explore the ability to Self-Manage ourselves to a level of fruition that produces the fruit we want to receive then we have to ask the foremost important question: Why do we believe that we have so little value? I believe this belief causes more pain and suffering than any other belief we can feed into about ourselves. It is very destructive course of action towards our self-confidence and ambition in life.

From the time we are children to pre-teens to teens to adults we are bombarded with people who lower our self-esteem and destroy our own personal sense of discipline and self-worth. Very little is done in school to help this situation. We were always perceiving another student doing better than us because they got a better grade a few times and we found out about it. Then we began to think in our minds, “That person is just smarter than me.” It continues all through school and even when our friends played with someone else and left us out of the fun we wanted to know, “How are they better than me?  I thought my friend liked me?”

Personal Development in the past has done little to fix this problem other than offer people an over inflated idea about themselves and one they cannot live up too at that. So we construct a reality in our own mind and try to assign value to ourselves there and sometimes we over do it. Don’t get me wrong, we must be able to have extreme self-confidence and to have high ambition. But we must have a sense of reality that what we believe we can do, we can really do. An over bloated idea about ourselves and what we “think” we can really do does not help our confidence level. In other words, what we think we can do we must be able to do. Delusions of your ability does not help your self-confidence.

Personal Development needs to teach more about the reality in your head becoming congruent with the reality you see in your daily life. It is hard to be objective in a subjective world. In fact, you can’t really rely on what others say about your results because they are skewed as well. Friends and family don’t want to hurt your feelings. You must test yourself in order to know what you can and cannot do. Or perhaps you need an expert Personal Development Coach to help you get the raw facts that you need in order to excel. Self-management is all about you having a worldview of yourself that is compatible with what you want to accomplish in life.

The personal development that you pursue should be trackable and verifiable with results that you produce. This way you will know how much better you are really getting at anything you want to excel at in your life.

The thinking trap that we get caught up with in our life is that we value ourselves by what we achieve in life. Your value as a human being is not determined by what you do or achieve in life. That only works in the market place. You have to value yourself independently of your achievements in life in order to stay balanced.

And good personal development course should teach you this distinction. Your value is not what you create. Your value is what type of person you are and how you treat other people. Many people will gain fame and think. “If it is this easy then it must not be to important because anyone can do this.” They can’t believe that they are good enough for the success and therefore begin to tear it down. Make sure your chosen personal development course teaches you this as well and you will see your self value go sky high and nothing will seem impossible to you!

Personal Development and the Managing of Your Mind!

Personal Development is all about the managing of your mind. Learning to use your mind to produce the effect you want to have on something daily is the true course of personal mastery. Your state of mind and the actions you take daily are of paramount importance when it comes to achieving the life of your dreams. So the personal development training you take should condition the characteristics of your mind. It is also just as important to train the tools of your mind.

The characteristics of a Creotology Warrior or a VSP (Very Successful Person) is staying persistent to your goals and becoming a person of clear and precise actions and decision making ability. Also important is to look at and test information for its effectiveness while developing an iron clad sense of integrity and a sense of what is right for you. The personal development course you choose should teach you that beliefs are meant to be effective towards your cause, or how to alter them so they become aligned with your purpose. Don’t hold a belief just because of the stubbornness of your emotions. The belief either works for you, or it does not work, period.

The personal development course you are working with should allow you to manage and control your emotions and relieve you of the ineffective thinking traps so many of us fall into today. An example of a thinking trap is called a Portal of the Brain.  This is where your attention becomes frozen in a particular time sequence of life and does not move from there. This makes you repeat the same behavior patterns daily and treating everyone (including yourself) as the same as every other day. This last sentence is a clear example of a thinking trap. You want to avoid this type of living because all you are doing is existing. Any personal development course should teach you about how to deal effectively with thinking traps. If not, get out of it quickly and find another course more comprehensive.

Personal Development is about your journey into your mind and the design you want for your life. In order to make the characteristics work for you the way you desire for them to is to have the mental tools trained that make them work every time. A good personal development course should awakening your personal will and train your personal attention to be able to hold a course of action until your desired result is achieved.  Creating alignment in your life and finding more easy ways to do something will create less need for your personal will to be involved in the situation. This is of great importance because your personal will works in short determined situations. Not for long and drawn out situations with no real sense of ending and/or accomplishment. Managing the mind should be the real goal of any serious and complete personal development course.

Here are some basic skills that we teach in the Creotology Mental Black Belt Course:

1.      Managing your energy and time.

2.      Facing problems head on and how to break them down and deal with them effectively.

3.      Treating yourself properly and fairly.

4.      Becoming more creative and adaptive to any situation in your life.

5.      Achieve change in your life the way you desire.

6.      Change must be centered around real transformation.

5.      Develop a high sense of cognitive thinking ability and engaging it to solve obstacles.

6.      Building enormous self-confidence and self esteem.

7.      Using the resiliency factor of your abilities as they matter greatly day by day.

8.      Avoid thinking traps.

9.      How to plan and strategize your future while not missing out on living in the moment.

10.    How to deal with toxic people and the energy they try to pollute you with.

11.    Learn to rid yourself of what does not matter and focus only on those things that do.

These are just a few things covered in the Mental Black Belt Course. We hope to see you in class learning to become a Mental Black Belt since we know it will transform your life the way it has all of ours that follow the Creotology Course of Actions.

Personal Development and the Power of Action!

Action can be identified as the personal will in motion. Action can be taken in two different ways. You can think something and that is action. You can physically move your body and that is another level of action. The brain tells the body what to do and the body follows the instructions. Simple enough so far, right? Well the problem comes in the form of getting your body to take the physical action.  Many people are lazy in their minds and that makes them lazy in their brains and their physical body. Most people do not want to take the energy and time to think a problem through all the way. They would rather be told what to do and why! And there we have the indoctrination of the will. “Tell me what you want me to do and I will do it!” Is their decree. Never has there been more dangerous words. It is a complete surrender of the personal will. If anything, the Personal Development course you study should be aimed at awakening your determination and resolve.

The greater your personal will, the greater amount of action you will take and the more you will achieve. So success comes at the expense of getting your personal will in alignment with your thinking, or primarily, your attention. Personal Development should make you stretch your imagination and to learn as much about everything as you can. Why? Because the more you know the more you have to work with when it comes to being more creative. The more creative you are, the more things you create and in different ways.

Training yourself to be more pro-active is a great thing and will yield many successful results for you. However, you have to have the power of your personal will and personal attention in alignment with one another. Here is an exercise to get you started in the alignment process.

Exercise:

Every day for a week make yourself do something really small that you don’t want to do – but do it. You can build from there. Just for now, you want to get the focused attention and personal will working together.  It can be challenging, but you can do it!!

Personal Development and the Time Management Factor!

Two things that are for sure in our lives – time and energy. Time and energy are the most valuable thing we have second only to our health. However, finding the time to do what we need to accomplish daily is a bit of a grind. I know I have experienced it and still do a little from time to time. But, I have learned some tricks through Personal Development I will share here with you.

The first trick is to know your energy times and the times that you are at your strongest. Everyone has a time of the day that they are their strongest and most energized. I like to do my most pressing matters during the early morning and get them out of the way. Also, don’t try to schedule a bunch of things everyday. Personal Development skills will help you time the effectiveness of your strongest point of focus and work from there daily. When you are focused and centered you will be amazed at the amount of work you can get done. I mean you will eventually hit the zone and even impress yourself.  Organize the things you have to do into most pressing to the least and take a few on everyday. By the end of the week all has been handled and you are ready for the new pressing matters. It is true that you should strive to be conscious all the time. However , there are times when a routine can be very helpful and productive.

If you’re able to just get up and do your morning work-out without even thinking about it; this is a good sub-conscious routine. It is worth keeping because it is result oriented and makes you healthy.  So not all sub-conscious behavior is bad. But, you do have to keep an eye on what is effective for you as an individual and what is not. When your are in creations that make you do things that are not productive and then you want to justify your actions with the cop out of lacking self responsibility; this is not a good thing at all and this type of Sub-Conscious programming should not be tolerated. Tomorrow we will discuss the power of your conscious actions.

Personal Development Stand for Something or Fall for Anything

My studies in Personal Development has led me to the discovery that if you don’t stand for something you will fall for anything. I believe this to be very true, however, it does require a little adjustment. You do need to be sound in your beliefs, but, you also must be willing to openly hear others without being offended or closed from an alternate understanding. If you are closed from hearing other beliefs then you probably are not very secure in your belief. The power of beliefs can change your world for better or for worse. But, what is important is that you are always willing to explore and listen with an open mind about other beliefs. There are a lot of different Personal Development courses that are out there and that are valuable. What is important is that you find the right course  that works for you.

You can be extremely glued to your viewpoint and still listen to what others are saying without being judgmental and defensive. In fact try all this week to listen to other people’s ideas about a subject matter and try and stay neutral about their belief. Just listen to their convictions and feel it and allow it to move on. Remember the real power of a belief is in how effective it is and if it helps to get you what you desire. A good Personal Development course will teach you that beliefs are what creates reality. If it does not, you may want to re-think spending your money and attention on pursuing that course.

Beliefs do create reality and are the DNA for your thoughts that become your manifestations. Creotology Personal Development will allow you to explore your beliefs and make you very happy that you did because this is where changes are made in Personal Development. Beliefs and thoughts, actions and proper thinking, all provide input for your outcome base of results.

Personal Development is all about you finding your passion and the principles that work for you. Creotology has that very exercise to help you discover your convictions and how to change them – allowing you to achieve your desires. The best part is that the exercise is free and there for you if you want to explore your consciousness and the beliefs that make them up.

Creotology Personal Development and the Power of Attention

Soke Draconis and I were walking down the street in our neighborhood enjoying the beautiful summer day.  As we strolled along, we were discussing Creotology Personal Development Institute and how the programs were evolving when we happened upon a large cat sneaking up on some birds enjoying a puddle of water from the previous night’s rain. Soke Draconis said, “Look at the incredible amount of focused attention the cat has on those birds. That is the type of attention that our students need to have in Creotology Personal Development.”

We stopped and watched what nature had designed and looked for the lesson in the moment. The cat readied itself, kept very low to the ground and moved in small little steps. With its ears laid back and everything about it very still. We could see that the cat was now focusing on the bird closest to him. Soke Draconis whispered, “The cat is going for the low hanging fruit. This means the bird he has picked is the closest for his success.” Soke’s remark sent my thoughts back to a class in Creotology Personal Development about focus and attention. Also, I think I have felt that type of attention in some mental procedures that we do in class.

The birds played and were oblivious to the predator that was about to pounce on their freedom. It was hard to watch, but nature is what it is! With a fast bolt, the cat leaped and successfully hit its mark.  As the other birds took off and the chaos cleared, there stood the cat with its bird and fruit of the cat’s rewards for a perfect and flawless attack. Once again, it was hard for Soke Draconis and me to watch the event. However, we came away with some keen insights. The insights were to stay focused on one thing at a time, look for the most available opportunity at all times, be patient and remain centered in your focus and whatever you do, do not jump the gun.