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Personal Development and Building Self-Esteem
July 21, 2010 | 
Author Self-esteem is crucial for your personal success. Your self-esteem is linked to the way you will allow other to treat you daily. This treatment that you allow daily will greatly and profoundly effect the rest of your life. When you have great levels of self-confidence it will greatly and automatically effect your levels of self-resiliency. (Please see my blog posting on Self-Resiliency.)
Self-esteem training you receive from Personal Development Training can be done at home at work or anywhere. In fact , any good Personal Development Training should have a section about building confidence. There are so many things you can do to build your sense of worth I could write an entire book on the techniques themselves. But, there are some particular personal development techniques to help you build your solid and impenetrable self-esteem. First let’s start with some of my observations and studies when it comes to high self-esteem.
Traits of High Self-Esteem
The person of high self-esteem has great levels of self-confidence – they go together like peanut butter and jelly. These people display a high attitude of “I will achieve this” and when they say it you believe it because you can see and feel the conviction and belief in what they are doing. They have been through good Personal Development Training.
High self-regard is seen in the way they handle themselves and other people. People with high self worth have their act together and are organized and they do not break in the face of adversity daily. Personal Development training will foster the ability to keep improving themselves to the point they have flow in their lives.
They are planners and execute their plans. This is a big bonus to having self-esteem because if you believe you can achieve, you will act accordingly and planning is one of those acts of clarity and purpose. People with high self-esteem have great clarity and focus.
People with high self-esteem treat obstacles differently than those who do not have it. Obstacles are part of the course and will need to be dealt with accordingly. They look for the information to solve the obstacle instead of remaining stuck and fearful of the obstacle itself and what “might” happen.
The Psychological Behavior to Stop the Vicious Cycle of Low Self-Esteem
Stop blaming yourself when you make a mistake or fall short of a goal. You can own the fact that you did not complete the goal on time or that you made a mistake, but do not believe that you are a person of low results or can’t be trusted or that you fail at everything you do. Accept that there will be set backs and that you are a person who possess ample self-esteem and that you will continue to push through to the end until finished. This will re-wire your sub-conscious thoughts and beliefs about yourself. Personal Development Training will teach you that your beliefs and thoughts will create who you sub-consciously structure yourself to be. So be very careful not to make the mistake of putting yourself down when things go wrong (as they will do) you are not those setbacks, you are the solver of those setbacks.
Think of one thing that you believe yourself to not be good at or that you don’t do very well but need to or would really like to do. Make it small and allow yourself a reasonable amount of time to complete it or learn the skill you need to begin doing the thing properly. The more things you do right that you could not do before the more your confidence goes up. Remember, start small and work your way up!
Personal Development and How Beliefs Create Reality.
Personal Development and How Beliefs Create Reality.
It has been my personal experience through my Personal Development training that it is really hard for people to accept beliefs create reality and not their experience in life. They do not like to accept the fact that experience is determined through perception and perceptions are filtered through the way we believe about something. I will admit that I see how this happens to many people; however, the truth is that we see the world through the prism of our belief systems. The belief formulates the DNA for whatever perception we are having about anything.
Personal Development deals with many aspects of whatever we have going on in our life, but for some reason overlooks the fact more often than not that beliefs create reality. The personal development mantra is all about how thoughts create reality. Thoughts come from our beliefs. So whatever we believe will come through as what we think. Thoughts are just random insights and processing information and trying to organize out adventures and under takings.
Beliefs are a totally different ball game. Personal Development should be all about helping you get your viewpoints in alignment to create the right thoughts so you can take the correct actions in your life. The shortest distance between two points is a straight line. This means the most effective ideas and thoughts will align your action into the quickest victory of your personal goals.
If you like, you can go to Creotology.com and under the tab that says ROC you can download a personal questionnaire of your mental blueprint. All you have to do is fill the questionnaire out and you will begin to see many changes and thoughts and even ‘Aha’ happening in your mind. You can even download my free Book The Teachings of Soke Draconis and The Universal Psychology of the Law of Attraction Book for free. This will be enough free information and exercises to get you started and on your way to many new discoveries about yourself and the world you have created for yourself.
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Personal Development the Right Way!
It is an odd concept to me that you can go to a weekend seminar or workshop and think you can make a difference in your life of any real substantial gain. Change is a very big concept. Change? What type of change? How do I make the change? Why do I need the change? These are all big questions and even after they are answered, does not mean that change is guaranteed.
Personal Development should be a training course like the martial arts offer. I mean, if you had a class you had to come to once a week and some homework you had to do you would be more likely to stick to the plan you are attempting to implement into your life. This is especially true when you then take a test every thirty days to be sure you are learning the techniques, can perform them and that they are making a difference in your life. Creotology Personal Development has done this by fusing personal development and the martial arts together for you.
I know many people who have paid thousands of dollars to go to a weekend seminar or workshop and leave feeling empowered (I am going to take on the world and it will bend to my personal will) and ready to change their life come Monday morning, only to find themselves within a week or two right back at the same problems and obstacles wondering what went wrong. “My confidence is taking a hit right about this time, but I have to be strong and realize it is not my fault that my life is not changing, it is the fault of the system and approach I am using.”
I developed Creotology Personal Development to be a horse of a different color so to speak. It is a one-of-a-kind program that follows you every step of the way and stays with you until the change you want is made and you are using it in your daily life. We are here weekly for you and so are you, in turn, for us since the support groups helps immensely in terms of friends holding friends accountable.
So if you’re not getting the changes you want in your personal development course it is not your fault, it is the way the personal development course is designed that you are dealing with. Try the Creotology Personal Development Course – it is change you can see and feel every step of the way.
Personal Development and Some of the Primary Focus of Control!
Personal Development and Some of the Primary Focus of Control!
As the world becomes a more competitive place to live in, we are naturally trying for a edge in our life’s that will allow us and our children to evolve and thrive. Personal Development is not only about your growth as a person, but also about other people who are beginning to train and to become Personal Development Instructors.
A Personal Development Instructor is called a Creational Master in Creotology Personal Development. It is a good thing to be sure that the Personal Development Course or Instructor you take on is qualified with some type of training that shows they are able to truly excel in life and are capable of accomplishing things that are in alignment with what you want to create or they have accomplished something higher than what you want and now you are inspired by them to try and do the same. In other words, your Personal Development Instructor should stretch you towards being more than you imagined you could have ever become.
This is easier said than done. Most Personal Development Instructors are just repeating the same information from one book to the next. While the basics stay the same (as in any well established system) you need to look for Personal Development Instructors that are on the cutting edge of information and transformational mental techniques. It is also important they be evolving themselves and not just resting on their past achievements. They must be trying to evolve and grow as well.
Self-awareness is a primary tool that we as humans have developed and know that we are not our thoughts or actions. Many people get caught up in the idea that they are what they think and act upon. However, this is not true. Most peoples actions and thoughts are on a sub-conscious level and therefore they are not even in control of their thoughts and actions. That is why a good Personal Development Course or Instructor will give you training to become more of a deliberate and conscious creator in your life. To become more of a conscious creator in your life does involve training and action in your life. You will have to study and test things in your life to see if they are worth your time or not, but, isn’t your life worth it?
Self-awareness allows you to have a deep introspection of yourself and the ability to know if something is wrong or right for you. You learn to listen to yourself and not take things personally. When you fail at something you do not personalize it and lower your self-confidence by that event in your life. You learn that you can grow by your mistakes and failures and that you are more than you first thought yourself to be. A good Personal Development Instructor or Course will help you to easily see this and through your increasing self-awareness, you can become a larger more conscious persona and grow beyond your wildest dreams.
Personal Development and Self-Confidence
Hello, today we are going to talk about Self-Confidence and how to develop it. Many people make the mistake of thinking that they have no confidence about themselves. This is not true! Everyone has confidence in something and in most cases a lot of things. However, when we lack confidence in something we internalize it as if we lack confidence in all things. A good Personal Development Course or Instructor will teach you to identify what you lack confidence in and will help you build from there.
Personal Development Instructors should listen to your concerns and direct you to discovering where you are having your problems in life because of low confidence and provide you with the tools to create a master plan which you can effectively engage. Yes…I said engage. Confidence comes from being prepared and doing what you lack confidence in. Whatever you lack confidence in doing, make it a habit until it becomes a habit that you are very good at up to the point of becoming a natural response. Practice regardless of whether you feel good or not so good. The more you practice something correctly the better you become at it. You have the power to literally make it second nature to yourself. You will find that a good personal development course will highlight this type of training for you. Alternatively, you may need a more personal touch and find you prefer to deal directly with a Personal Development Instructor.
Another personal development technique that can be applied when needed and also practiced regularly is to think of someone with great self confidence and when you are faced with adversity, think of this person and ask yourself, “What would they do?” Then think of yourself as them and what they would do, and you can even imagine that you are them. This powerful technique is called modeling and is very potent. Another personal development technique to implement is when confidence is needed, stand or sit with your back straight and imagine in your mind that you are expanding and becoming larger than the person or situation that you have to tackle. This too is a powerful technique.
Do not become too rigid in your steps to gain confidence and how it has to be for you. A well laid out plan is great and you should have one in place to provide you an outlined structure to follow, but be flexible and ready to adapt as well. Being too rigid may make you clam up and not feel like being at your best because you feel to confined. Personal Development teaches you to make a plan and study what you need to know and then do it. Doing what you told yourself you would do instills confidence in you and makes you trust yourself. Start small and work your way up to larger things. You can instill confidence in others by giving them things to do and tell them that they are the perfect person for this assignment and then don’t follow up with them trust in them that they did it. Then find a smooth and non-aggressive way to follow up with them… no one else. You could say, “Bob, I know you took care of that assignment I gave you. Did you find it simple or challenging?”
Think of mistakes you make as learning lessons. Forget the notion you will do it right the first time. This sets you up for failure thinking. Remember, mistakes are part of the process in becoming more confident. Accept the mistake as a learning curve and move on. Do not give them another thought except for what you have to learn from it. Mistakes are great teachers nothing more. Personal Development and self-confidence go hand-in-hand together. Don’t allow yourself to ruin your confidence by not forgiving yourself for mistakes. Be kind to yourself and watch yourself grow with great confidence.
Personal Development and the Power of Self-Management
Personal Development and the Power of Self-Management
We talked yesterday about the Power of Self-Management and the power it can build for you into your daily life. So if we are going to explore the ability to Self-Manage ourselves to a level of fruition that produces the fruit we want to receive then we have to ask the foremost important question: Why do we believe that we have so little value? I believe this belief causes more pain and suffering than any other belief we can feed into about ourselves. It is very destructive course of action towards our self-confidence and ambition in life.
From the time we are children to pre-teens to teens to adults we are bombarded with people who lower our self-esteem and destroy our own personal sense of discipline and self-worth. Very little is done in school to help this situation. We were always perceiving another student doing better than us because they got a better grade a few times and we found out about it. Then we began to think in our minds, “That person is just smarter than me.” It continues all through school and even when our friends played with someone else and left us out of the fun we wanted to know, “How are they better than me? I thought my friend liked me?”
Personal Development in the past has done little to fix this problem other than offer people an over inflated idea about themselves and one they cannot live up too at that. So we construct a reality in our own mind and try to assign value to ourselves there and sometimes we over do it. Don’t get me wrong, we must be able to have extreme self-confidence and to have high ambition. But we must have a sense of reality that what we believe we can do, we can really do. An over bloated idea about ourselves and what we “think” we can really do does not help our confidence level. In other words, what we think we can do we must be able to do. Delusions of your ability does not help your self-confidence.
Personal Development needs to teach more about the reality in your head becoming congruent with the reality you see in your daily life. It is hard to be objective in a subjective world. In fact, you can’t really rely on what others say about your results because they are skewed as well. Friends and family don’t want to hurt your feelings. You must test yourself in order to know what you can and cannot do. Or perhaps you need an expert Personal Development Coach to help you get the raw facts that you need in order to excel. Self-management is all about you having a worldview of yourself that is compatible with what you want to accomplish in life.
The personal development that you pursue should be trackable and verifiable with results that you produce. This way you will know how much better you are really getting at anything you want to excel at in your life.
The thinking trap that we get caught up with in our life is that we value ourselves by what we achieve in life. Your value as a human being is not determined by what you do or achieve in life. That only works in the market place. You have to value yourself independently of your achievements in life in order to stay balanced.
And good personal development course should teach you this distinction. Your value is not what you create. Your value is what type of person you are and how you treat other people. Many people will gain fame and think. “If it is this easy then it must not be to important because anyone can do this.” They can’t believe that they are good enough for the success and therefore begin to tear it down. Make sure your chosen personal development course teaches you this as well and you will see your self value go sky high and nothing will seem impossible to you!