Las Vegas Personal Development – Birds of a Feather…

When I was young my mother always told me that if I hang around certain kids then other people would classify me to be like them. I always thought that was weird and questioned what was wrong with my friends.  I myself thought that my friends were just fine and that they are who I prefer to hang out with. As the wisdom of my mother evolved I begin to see that she was right and I discovered a lot more about myself then I was willing to examine at the time she told me this. I begin to see that she was very intuitive and very astute when it came to her beliefs about life. I later discovered that it is more correct to say that people with a certain mentality hang around with each other. Mentalities do create groups or social clicks if you will. Don’t believe me?  Make a list of your five closes friends and you will see that what I am saying is true. The people who are in your closes confidence are your click.

Now look at their health and their financial situation and their religious or spiritual beliefs. As you look at all these compartments of your life you will see the true picture unfold. You are like those that you hang out with. You will notice that the scale fits perfectly. If you are overweight I bet your closes friends are overweight. If you are in shape so are your closes friends. If you make a certain amount of money then they probably are making around the same thing. And all of you have about the same type of daily problems. Energy will attract other energy that is like it. I know it seems strange to accept this as a truth however; it is true to an extremely large degree. This is why it is so hard to change and elevate your game because others in the group will pull you down.

Here is a true experiment that was done with monkeys.

 Zoo keepers took five monkeys and placed them in a cage together. They then placed a banana at the top of a pole. When the monkeys would go to get the banana from the top of the pole the zoo keepers would spray them with a large fire hose. Then they would place a new monkey in the cage and when the new monkey went for the Banana the other monkey’s pulled him down and would not let him go for the gold. Then they would keep the new monkey in the cage and take out one of the older monkeys and then bring in a new monkey. When the new monkey went for the banana they would pull him down. So they kept replacing the monkeys until they were all replaced and the monkeys kept on doing the same thing.

When we are in social circles or even in families Creotology has seen this exact behavior from loved ones towards each other. No one wants to feel left behind and made to feel as if they are the losers and that you have evolved into a winner!  Now, as painful as it may seem sometimes you do have to leave friends and family behind even for a short while so that you can make your mark and strengthen your own resolves until you  are strong enough to integrate back with and not be pulled down to their non-productive ways. You can always be nice and say that you are going to be spending a lot of time away from the group and that when your mission is complete you will have more time to hang out. If that time comes and it does not feel right then it is time to find your new tribe of friends.  However, by the time you are done you already will have a new tribe of friends. I know that it can be hard to do in the beginning…but pain is temporary and suffering is a choice.

 Here is a small exercise to try:

 Think of 5 closes friends and ask yourself if you want to be like them five to twenty years from now. If you answer no move away slowly and adjust your life.

 Go to a Self-Help course like Creotology’s Las Vegas Personal Development or some other Las Vegas Personal self-help course. But do it and learn to create and live the life that you chose.